Alright so, I think Tumblr must have eaten this ask after I tried to reply to it, but I really wanted to address it.
could you not with the ru paul thing cause ru paul has been a really shitty person to trans people and the show has been really shitty to trans people and that one gif set doesn’t change that. look up transgriot’s “why i can’t stand ru paul” -Anon
I am truly truly sorry, anon. I know how shitty/problematic RuPaul is [I don’t like him one bit], but I believe the other mods are Cis and so they aren’t as aware of these things. [here is the blog article as mentioned]
So, to the other mods, if you would abide by this anon’s request from here on out!
As this blog has progressed I have tried to make it more comprehensive, and inclusive of people outside of the abled white cis gay male perspective as seems to be the pinpoint of mainstream LGBTQ+ agenda. But have been apprehensive in this as I do not know how the other mods will react to certain aspects of that, and I have extreme anxiety so ruffling feathers isn’t something I do for fun. If the other mods would at least try to be a little bit more… aware. [and perhaps we could discuss these things at some point???]
Hello, I'm wondering if "straight" is a word used to represent a dichotomy or if it's more like a continuum, i.e. is it just straight + many many variations of not straight or is "not completely straight" linguistically accurate?
According to Wikipedia, the slang term “straight” didn’t come about until the mid-20th Century, and was used by members of the Queer community as a descriptor for Gay men who would pretend to be hetero or “go straight and narrow”.
Outside of that I don’t believe it really has any true meaning in modern context. Yes, people use it in reference to heterosexuality, but with the plethora of sexual and romantic orientations naming the combination of heterosexual heteroromantic as “straight” is both heterosexist and cissexist.
As it stands on a societal context, there is definitely a sense of cishethet being the norm and a constant othering or just plain ignoring of queer identities.
Sexuality is definitely not a dichotomy. Hetero exists side-by-side with other sexual orientations, that intersect with romantic orientation and gender identities, and sometimes there are exceptions to the rule or moments of yolo or even nolo. For lack of a better way to say it, it is more like a big ball of wibbly-wobbly humany-wumany relationship feelings stuff.
[i hope this makes sense and answers your inquiry it is 2 in the am and i slept for maybe 3 hours in the last 35]
Hi there, I saw a previous ask on your blog so I thought I'd ask about my own situation: I'm a girl, and I have no clue what I can identify with. I get turned on by both gay and hetero smut but not lesbian ones, and while I'm sexually attracted to guys mostly, the romantic but platonic attraction to my female friends gets rather overwhelming. Am I bi? Pan?
My policy is as follows: You identify as whatever you are comfortable with, and if anyone tries to tell you that you are wrong then you kick them in the shin. [not really that last part but you can if you want]
You may be heterosexual bi/panromantic, or androsexual bi/panromantic, or maybe heteroflexible bi/panromantic; but really it is all up to you. HERE is the link to that site that may be of some help, and again all of the prefix on those words can be applied to romantic attractions. I think that you should really try figuring yourself out through experience, there’s no rush to put words to your feelings.
Also, I would try to invest your self discovery too much in porn/smut. The way the sexual interaction works in things like that really depend on whoever produced the work, and can be very… iffy, especially in relation to lesbian things. [a lot of smut writers are straight so queer sex tends to get badly translated]
As always, if you want to discuss this further you can come off anon on here, let me know if you’d like to chat on skype, or contact me on my blog.
Just wanted to let you know that I quite adore your blog and have been scrolling through it for quite some time now, just laughing and loving every bit of it. I, myself, just recently started a blog up for LGBTQs that is dedicated to being a safe place and to provide resources to help make the trek to happiness a little easier. I also have a link to a site I’m attempting to get on its feet that is the same thing, but also has a forum attached. You know, safe place to chat and be open and find advice and all that. Soooooo……yep! Sending much lesbian love <3
Oh, and a link :P